coming to terms?

How do you ever learn to come to terms with having something you don't want?

So I haven't posted in nearly a year, and I've been trying to think why I haven't and it just clicked.. I write this whilst sitting in pain remembering at times like this I have a progressive neurological autoimmune disease (MS).

It's taken me almost a year to realise that I'm never going to be healthy again, and that's made me sad. Everyone thinks I'm this strong person, or perhaps they expect it? I dunno, what I do know is that I'm not nearly as strong as people think I am. It's just a facade I can play very well I think.

I know there are people out there worse off than me, I get it I really do, but I just don't wanna live with an illness that will eat me up and just spit me out. I'm scared. People tell me not to think about the future but surely you have to? I know everyone's future is pretty much unknown but I feel like mine is really scary. 

My charity work for the MS society has been non existent right now which also makes me feel pretty crap about myself but I've got a few ideas flowing (thank god)! 

I suppose what I'm trying to say is that I'm living with something I'm trying to ignore and it's not going away however hard I try and that's not healthy for anyone. How do you accept that one day the normal you know is going to disappear? I don't wanna rely on medicines to live I really don't. I feel like the last year I have changed, maybe not on the outside and the way I act around family and friends. But inside I've come to realise that not everything lasts forever and it's just frightening I suppose. I don't wanna be cynical but just realistic?

But seriously how do you come to terms with having something you don't want? Maybe it's time...

Being grateful :)

Lately I've been feeling grateful about so many things so I thought I'd share my thoughts and feelings.. There is so much that many of us are grateful for apart from the essentials like food, drink,shelter etc.. At the moment I'm feeling so very grateful for:

1) my parents- I am soooooo grateful for my parents. They have stuck by my side through everything and I wouldn't be the person I am today if it wasn't for them. Since I fell ill in march 2011 they've both been by my side and come to every doctors appointment with me. I can imagine how hard things could have been for them but not once was that reflected on the outside. They were forever positive and telling me that nothing is the end of the world. I seriously couldn't have better parents. I love you both to the moon and back! And they're also taking me to Australia for my 21st!!! Best parents ever? Yeap I think so too

2) my family - since day one they have been supportive and not afraid to talk to me about my illness, which I love. They are such a crazy lot but I wouldn't have it any other way! Everyone is soo supportive in whatever I do. Whenever I come up with my crazy fundraising ideas they never tell I won't be able to do anything,they're so positive! Which I love and which makes me love them so much ❤️

3) my MS - sounds so weird but I'm so grateful, not only do I now have a name to my illness but I've also met some amazing people who are connected to MS in one way or another. Since being diagnosed I've become such a mature and level headed person. Yeah, I hate MS so very much but since there's no cure it's something I can't run away from, instead I'll just embrace it and do EVERYTHING in my power to help fundraise which will ultimately help find a cure :)

4) My friends - although if I'm honest I've lost many friends since being diagnosed or people are very different towards me (their loss not mine!) I do have such a lovely bunch of friends who are very supportive in whatever I do which is so lovely it's nice to know people care about you (as silly as that sounds), I've also made many new friends which it's great :) I have a group of 8 girls, including me.. (you know who you are) which most of them I've known for almost 10 years, I literally wouldn't be able to cope sometimes if it wasn't for them. They're so positive and funny and supportive and if you're reading this I know I don't open up much but thank you, I love you all so much ❤️

5) my cats - I love my cats haha (WARNING: future cat lady) need I say more? Haha

6) Work - since sept 2011 I've been working with the best people I could have imagined! I'm so grateful to have had a part time job during uni so I wasn't a poor student (yay)! The support I've had from work has also been amazing, I couldn't have asked for anything more! I've met some of the best and funniest people at work, which I know I'll be friends with forever ❤️

Life's gooooood!

I know I haven't posted in a while things have been pretty hectic atm! Got a few things which makes life good atm: 

1) Good news from the neurologist.. Atm My MS dormant so alls good, I'm carrying on my eating plan too :) 

2) I ve also had a little radio debut talking about my MS story on BBC three counties radio too! That was amazing and just so much fun I wish I could do it all again! 

3) Uni is almost over!!! (Yay) can't wait! quite nervous about entering the "real world" but I'm sure I'll be fine :) haha

4) I'm running the half marathon (haha yes, really) for the MS society uk and I'm hoping to raise £1000, it's definitely going to be a challenge but I love a challenge. It's a looooong run but when you're so passionate about something things will always be fine! 

And last but no way least 

5)  I'm going to be a godmother!! My lovely cousin is having a baby boy and he is lucky enough to have me as his godmother ;) (I joke) 

So yeah all is good in the whole world of Rosie! 

New diet!

So the past week I've cut out (where possible) Wheat, Gluten, Dairy, Yeast and Legumes in hope of  helping to ease some of my MS symptoms. so far so good.. its actually been alot easier than i thought it would have been! I've found a really nice healthy dairy substitute called 'Koko' so thats made life a little easier haha!

I've also made some wheat/dairy/gluten free granola bars which are a nice substitute for chocolate!

The recipe was pretty simple to!

1 1/2 cups of gluten free oats
1 cup of dried fruit
1 cup of nuts (chopped)
1 1/2 cup of honey
1 tablespoon of chocolate powder (not compulsory)
1 tablespoon of vanilla essence
1 tablespoon of cinnamon

Method:  (preheat oven to 165 degrees)

1) add the oats, fruit and nuts together in a bowl
2) Heat the honey in the microwave for 30 seconds, add the chocolate powder, vanilla essence and cinnamon into the same bowl as the honey whilst its warm.
3) add the honey mixture to the oats, fruit and nuts
4) place the mixture in a tray to go into the oven for 20-25minutes
5) once the mixture is out if the oven use a spatula to squash down the mixture to its more confined
6) once the mixture is cool you can cut them :)

Future Rosie

So I'm feeling really ill at the moment and in an anti-social mood but I thought I'd talk about the recent letter I'd written..

So I've written a letter for future Rosie, 4 pages for me to read in 10years. This letter really made me think what was important right now in my life. I'd recommend everyone to do this, it made me think of my opinions and I'm so intrigued to see if they've changed. I also wonder where life will have taken me in 10 years? 

Within the letter I've asked so many questions lol I think I'm going to annoy future Me with all the questions and silly jokes! 

Throughout the 4 pages of the letter I probably cried or welled up at least 5 times it's made me think of how far I've come and how much has changed within the last few years. I'm proud of myself. And I just hope within the next 10 years I don't forget how far I've come. I'd love to just help people whether it be a profession or a hobby or a life change..

I want to grow into a person that I'd be proud of right now!

So on the 16/1/2024 I'll be opening the letter I've written and I'm genuinely so excited :)

If I ever come  across  my  blog in future years I just want future rosie to know:

1) nothing's impossible, make sure you follow your dreams.. don't give fuck what others think of them! 

2) don't put your happiness in the hands of someone else 

3) Travel the world! It's never too late 

4) Make sure you're happy in whatever you do 

5) keep in contact with the friends and family who were there for you through thick and thin

6) make sure you carry on helping others 

7) don't be afraid of anything

8) life's to short do everything you want to

And most importantly 

9) every cloud has a silver lining ❤️

"I just want to be happy"

I apologise for the lack of posts lately been so busy with uni work! 

In a bit of a strange mood at the moment, not sure why I think things have just been a bit hectic emotionally and physically or it could be that I still feel hungover since yesterday hahahaha

I feel so stressed with my life, I just have no idea what I want to do after uni. It seems like everyone's lives around me is falling together and I'm stuck here still finding the peices.. My main goal in life is to be doing something that 1) I love and 2) makes me happy

I suppose the whole MS thing has thrown a spanner in the works, and sometimes I feel so ill 

And if you would have asked me 4 years ago what I wanted to be I would have said 100% a teacher but I now don't know the whole intensiveness of the PGCE seems like it would take it out of me 

Well I'm sure something will pop up.. Well I hope it does anyways! Just need to stay positive :) I just want to be happy! 

Positivity and 2014!

If there's one ultimate goal i could achieve in 2014 it would be that I've helped someone.From personal experiences I know that Being ill can be so isolating, Often people tell me "I know what you're going through" but no unless you're going through it you don't know. if I can can help just 1 person believe that they're not alone then i'll be a very happy girl :)

Positivity

My glass will always be Half full.Life is too short to be anything but happy,and if that means letting things go then so be it..

Theres so many people in life who you think will be there for you no matter what but 2013 showed me and 2014 has already shown me otherwise. personally for me i take it as a lesson and from now on i just wont let that certain thing/person affect my life.

Its easy to get in a kind of rut thinking that your life is so awful but there's one thing you ALWAYS need to have in your mind.. there is always someone out in the world in a worse situation.

We have to be grateful for the little things in life such as food, water, shelter etc

Of course there's times where I just wanna cry and think 'why me' but really you cant sit and dwell about these things because in the meantime life is going to pass by and you'll have nothing to show for it..

Theres one thing at the moment which could literally make me cry of happiness and thats the love and support of my friends who want do charity work for MS society, the one thing I want is to be better and it makes me so touched that friends would want to help <3

ABSEIL

So yeah as you can read from my previous post, on the 30th of march im abseiling over 100ft down the side of a shopping centre in aid of MS Society and would love to raise even more than I did in october!
so please please please sponsor me at justgiving,com/roseanna Any little bit would help :) xx